4 things I’ve learnt from social media?

Social media is everywhere nowadays, its so hard not to get consumed by it. From the moment you wake up to the moment you go to sleep most of us will check some sort of social platform. We are all victims of this powerful tool that has truly hooked us. It seems scarier to think of a world without Facebook, Twitter, Youtube or Instagram now. But is this a good or a a bad thing?

As soon as you leave school the novelty of social media platforms just sort of dwindles off and now all you see are people sharing videos on Facebook and the occasional family/friends photo on Instagram. Before seriously getting into blogging and Instagram I wasn’t really that fussed by social media either, but oh how this has changed now. So today I’m going to share with you 5 things that I’ve learnt from social media.

  1. Be inspired, not compared. The number 1 rule when scrolling through Instagram or any social media is to not compare yourself to others or even worse beat yourself up (not literally) about the fact that you don’t look the same or lead the same lifestyle. Of course this is not to say that you can’t be inspired because probably the most valuable thing that I’ve gained from social media is inspiration from others, but there’s a fine line between comparison and inspiration.
  2. You can’t please them all. Someone once said to me if everyone likes you then you’re doing something wrong. At first I didn’t quite get what they meant by this but it makes perfect sense now. Not everyone will like what you’re doing, how you look and will frankly feel the need to tell you their opinions, but I say let them. Every time someone tries to knock you down or shine a negative light on what you’re doing just use this as perfect opportunity to prove them wrong. It shouldn’t matter what other people think, just as long as you’re happy with YOURSELF.
  3. Confidence is not a bad thing. I’ve found myself many times hesitant to post a photo on Instagram that could perhaps be deemed ‘showy’ but at the end of the day who cares! I’m not doing all this for other people, I’m doing it for me. In a way Instagram is sort of a public diary of photos that I’m able to look back on and share my journey with other people along the way. Throughout my journey I am most grateful for the confidence that I have gained from posting photos and writing my blogs as I have always struggled with confidence issues. So if there’s anything that you take away from this blog post is don’t be afraid to be YOU, its perfectly fine to have confidence in yourself and project this confidence amongst others as like I said in point number 1 its amazing how much inspiration you can gain from social media (I said inspiration not comparison remember).
  4. Don’t get too caught up. Even though social media is an amazing network, it is important not to get too caught up in it. It’s not really about how many likes or followers you gain because I would much rather relate to or inspire 1 person than 100 people who just like or follow you for superficial likes and follows back. This is something that I have only recently learnt since seriously starting my blogging and ‘Instagraming’ as I used to take it personally if someone unfollowed me or unliked a photo but life is too short to focus on those things. Life is also too short to spend 24/7 on social media. I must admit I am a culprit of this from time to time but I’ve realised its important to not live your life through a screen and actually look up, go out and do things. Moderation is key like with everything as we were born to live a natural life, not a virtual one.

 

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Be true Be you x

My thoughts on social media

Just a little warning this may be a bit of a wordy post. So the reason I didn’t post yesterday is because I was feeling very down and defeated with this whole blogging thing. I didn’t have any great ideas and when I tried to take photos it made me feel extremely bad about myself because they weren’t flattering at all. So in the end I got very frustrated and ended up quite emotional because I didn’t feel like I was getting anywhere and instead was just wasting loads of time. Also the whole social media and Instagram thing played a big part in my frustrations yesterday as I lose a lot of followers on a daily basis and it makes me worried and self-conscious as I feel like I’ve done something wrong or they don’t like my content and if so should I change it. But despite all this I realise today that I’m still really starting out with this whole blogging thing and have a lot to learn yet, plus things don’t just happen overnight, they take time.

There’s been many occasions when I’ve looked at other blogs and been tempted to just replicate what they do and write about the same kind of thing but at the end of the day that’s not me and that’s not what I want to talk about or represent. Don’t get me wrong I love writing about fashion and style but I don’t want to pretend to be something I’m not, so yes I may not take the most professional photos and yes I may not have the most luxurious stuff or do anything big or special to share with you, but that’s because I don’t and I can’t afford to at the moment as I’m a student. It’s so easy to get carried away with everything you see on social media and think that it’s the bee all and end all to have the latest stuff and be like them, but is it really? You see all these bloggers and youtubers galavanting off on their luxurious days out and showing the glamorous side of their life which is inspiring don’t get me wrong but it’s important to remember not to get too carried away with it all and beat yourself up about the fact that you don’t lead such a glamorous lifestyle. I am such a culprit of this especially when I look at other already established bloggers with a huge following and I ask myself why haven’t I achieved that yet? It may just not be my time or it may not ever happen but what I’ve got to remember is that I’m not doing all this blogging and social media stuff for loads of likes or attention, I’m doing it for me and it doesn’t matter if 10 or 100 people read my blog just as long as I stay true to myself and ultimately help others too. It’s so easy to compare yourself to others on social media but there’s a fine line between admiring someone else and then beating yourself up about not being like them. I must point out that I’m no expert and my intentions of this blog are not to offer professional advice as I’m definitely no professional but I just wanted to share with you my recent thoughts and feelings on the whole blogging social media thing.

Social media is such a powerful tool nowadays that can be both a really positive and negative thing. It’s very hard but you’ve just got to block out the negativity and not care what others think, post what you want to post and be who you want to be. You can end up putting so much pressure on yourself to be and present yourself in a certain way similar to others that may not actually represent who you are as a person and what’s the point in that? Not everyone is going to necessarily like your content, posts or blog but that’s life, you can’t make everyone happy so why bother trying to, you should only be trying to make yourself happy. As long as you like what you’re doing then heck just go for it. So what if my Instagram is a bit random and there’s no consistent white background theme. That’s because I’m a bit random and I like doing a variety of things as my family will know from what we call my hobby-hopping days when I used to start and then go onto the next hobby like no tomorrow; from gymnastics to netball to fashion designing and the list goes on… That’s just me, and I don’t intend to change just to try and fit in with other bloggers and social media. My trying to fit in school days are over and it’s time to just be me and embrace that. I apologise again for the wordiness of this post but I just wanted to and needed to express my thoughts and opinions on the matter as it has been something that as played on my mind for a while now and I’m sure a lot of people have felt the same at some point. This is why I stick by my motto Be True Be You as it’s very easy in the world we live in today to follow the crowd and ultimately lose yourself, but why follow others when you can be different, unique and be YOU.

Can you tell the difference between high end and low end high street?

This is a question that has been troubling me for a while… can you really tell the difference between something that costs £100 plus compared to something that costs just £30? Well I wanted to test this and really get to the bottom of whether splashing the cash is really worth it. So I ventured out on Saturday with the intent of trying on high end high street clothing and then their low end high street alternatives to compare, well my version of their alternatives anyway. Something I must share with you though is my experience trying on high end high street clothing. Oh well, did I feel uncomfortable and embarrassed. Not only did I feel pressured to buy the clothes, which I really couldn’t afford anyway, but I felt so out of place and got the impression that the employees knew I couldn’t really buy the clothes I was trying on, giving me a look of pity mixed with shame as I handed the clothes back to them (reluctantly with some of the items I must add). At the end of the day should it matter if I could afford them or not? The whole point of having fitting rooms is to try before you buy and anyway I am trying before I’m buying even if the buying comes years later when I have a proper, higher paying job. Nothing like some well-advanced preparation. Without further or do I’m going to show you the outfits I tried on with their descriptions below and see if you can spot which ones are high end and low end high street. All will be revealed at the bottom of the page. I know you’re tempted but see if you can guess without looking at the answers first and comment below if you got any right or feel free to comment anything you’d like! (I must add that the shoes are mine and are  same throughout. They were £7 from TK Maxx if you were wondering).

  1. Casual wear: Floral printed dress paired with a leather jacket

2. Formal wear: Monochrome floral dress with greyish tones

3. Casual wear: Blush pink top with biker style jeans

4. Occasion wear: Contrast print dress

5. Now I know these outfits aren’t exactly matching but I just fell in love with these items when I saw them so it will be interesting to see which one you think is high end and low end when the outfits aren’t comparable.

Now are you ready for the big reveal…..

  1. The left image is the low end high street from New Look. Dress = £24.99, Jacket = £29.99. The right image is the high end high street from All Saints. Dress = £188.00, Jacket = £318.00
  2. The left image is the high end high street from Coast. Dress = £95.00. The right image is the low end high street from Quiz. Dress = £24.99
  3. The left image is the high end high street from Mint Velvet. Top = £69.00, Jeans = £79.00. The right image is the low end high street from Primark and next (as primark didn’t have my size in their jeans). Top = £8.00, Jeans = £35
  4. The left image is the high end high street from Coast (again). Dress = £129.00. The right image is the low end high street from Quiz (again). Dress = £26.99
  5. The left image is the low end high street from Zara. Jacket = £49.99, Trousers = £25.99, Bralette = £19.99. The right image is the high end high street from Modern Rarity which by the way is absolutely stunning. Top = £60.00, Trousers = £10

So all in all were you right? Can you tell the difference between spending a £100 plus on an outfit or merely spending under 50 quid? It amazes me that higher end high street stores charge so much for some of their clothes. I mean yes there is an obvious difference in quality sometimes but I’m not sure if that grants them the privilege to charge such extortionate prices. Now this may be because I am a student and I don’t have much money to flaunt around buying expensive clothing but I am a great believer that you can rock absolutely anything no matter what the price tag says because style is something that can’t be bought. You own your style when you Be True and you guessed it Be You.

Every girls secret confessions

We all have secret confessions whether we like to admit it or not.  We’re not all perfect and we all have our little quirks but that’s what makes us unique and what makes us human isn’t it? So here are just a few things that I’m owning up to #confessiontime

To get that perfect selfie there were 10 billion pre-selfies that just didn’t quite make the mark beforehand but you’ll still keep the pre-selfies on your phone anyway until Apple decide to tell you that your storage is almost full (which will be pretty soon no doubt). So this…

Equals this…

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Oh and speaking of selfies, we all love a good snapchat selfie especially that special front-face selfie face when you first open the app. Come on everyone’s done it once in their life but you daren’t post it to your story, only your closest and more importantly most trusted are blessed with this photo. Mine was taken secretly at the hairdressers…

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We love carbs! 🍕🍔🍟They are a simply a must especially around that time of the month if ya get me (but obvs in moderation). We all love a good pizza or sweet treat from time to time and sometimes its just needed and anyway Ben and Jerry’s would be out of business if it wasn’t for us! So those peeps who claim they never eat carbs… pshhht please why ya lying for??

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Come winter time there ain’t no need for leggings because we got a natural remedy for warmth… the growth of leg hair. Now this is something that is forbidden in the summer months but ahh winter is a bit more lenient because who’s gonna see those pale pins anyway. Embrace your inner wooly mammoth!

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Us girls we love to work out and get toning butttttt in reality working out ain’t glamorous and so it shouldn’t be. You’re there to sweat and feel the burn, not prance around with a full face of makeup on and show off your cute gym wear. So those instagram glam workout girls you see barely breaking one sweat drop are far from the real deal. Demonstration from moi is below…

A girls fav outfit is her PJ’s or sweatpants or both in my case. As soon as I get home its daggy time! I don’t see the point in lounging around in jeans and anyway can’t really call that lounging or relaxing when your jeans are digging into your recent food baby. Oh and it gets better when you’re able to finally take your bra off and set them free, now thats when comfort is taken to a whole new level. But if you prefer not to commit to the whole shebang then a sports bra/uni-boob bra is also another fav (now I don’t mean the sports bras you wear for maximum support whilst running, more like the cotton, non wired bad boys).

Talking of clothing, another confession is undewear. Now many guys have mispreconceptions about womens underwear, assuming that we  always wear  dainty matching lingerie, lace, sheer and often not much there (which does not reflect the cost I must add). But I’m sorry to be the bearer of bad news here guys… this just ain’t true. Us girls are secretly very fond of our super comfortable super ugly granny pants because A they hold you in and B they’re just too damn comfortable to resist. Every girl owns Bridget Jones style underwear whether they like to admit it or not and if you do manage to wear matching pretty lingerie every day then I bow down to you 👏

This is sort of a general one but every girl has pretended to be on their phone to prevent looking like a loner in public. You witness yourself endlessly scrolling on Instagram in the hope that people will buy your desperate attempt to look preoccupied. It’s alright girl I’ll pretend with you. 

Girls are experts at social media stalking. Now this is something that few girls will ever admit in fear of looking like a right stalker. So if you’re friend spills the beans that they are seeing someone then you can bet your bottom dollar that you’ll know everything about him in about 5 minutes of intensive social media stalking (SMS syndrome). Some people may have a problem with this but doing a background check is just not feesable so this is the next best thing. There’s nothing wrong with looking out for ya girl 😉

Now this one I admit is a little hard to fess up to but once in a girls life you have either tried to sing or recorded yourself singing to see if you sound any good. I remember doing this when I was little and even trying to make my own songs up. I blame this on my love of singstar on ps2. Sorry there’s no video proof but trust me there’s a reason for that. I definitely don’t have a singing career ahead of me. I can also say that I don’t have a future dancing career either despite dancing around my bedroom shaking my booty in the mirror when no one else is around. Whether you dance in your bedroom, dance while hoovering or dance while doing the dishes every girl has had a good shake about and let loose every now and then. 

If you relate to any of these confessions then I’d love for you to comment. Some of them are slightly embarrassing and yes it’s not easy to admit but at the end of the day you’ve got to Be True Be You.