4 things I’ve learnt from social media?

Social media is everywhere nowadays, its so hard not to get consumed by it. From the moment you wake up to the moment you go to sleep most of us will check some sort of social platform. We are all victims of this powerful tool that has truly hooked us. It seems scarier to think of a world without Facebook, Twitter, Youtube or Instagram now. But is this a good or a a bad thing?

As soon as you leave school the novelty of social media platforms just sort of dwindles off and now all you see are people sharing videos on Facebook and the occasional family/friends photo on Instagram. Before seriously getting into blogging and Instagram I wasn’t really that fussed by social media either, but oh how this has changed now. So today I’m going to share with you 5 things that I’ve learnt from social media.

  1. Be inspired, not compared. The number 1 rule when scrolling through Instagram or any social media is to not compare yourself to others or even worse beat yourself up (not literally) about the fact that you don’t look the same or lead the same lifestyle. Of course this is not to say that you can’t be inspired because probably the most valuable thing that I’ve gained from social media is inspiration from others, but there’s a fine line between comparison and inspiration.
  2. You can’t please them all. Someone once said to me if everyone likes you then you’re doing something wrong. At first I didn’t quite get what they meant by this but it makes perfect sense now. Not everyone will like what you’re doing, how you look and will frankly feel the need to tell you their opinions, but I say let them. Every time someone tries to knock you down or shine a negative light on what you’re doing just use this as perfect opportunity to prove them wrong. It shouldn’t matter what other people think, just as long as you’re happy with YOURSELF.
  3. Confidence is not a bad thing. I’ve found myself many times hesitant to post a photo on Instagram that could perhaps be deemed ‘showy’ but at the end of the day who cares! I’m not doing all this for other people, I’m doing it for me. In a way Instagram is sort of a public diary of photos that I’m able to look back on and share my journey with other people along the way. Throughout my journey I am most grateful for the confidence that I have gained from posting photos and writing my blogs as I have always struggled with confidence issues. So if there’s anything that you take away from this blog post is don’t be afraid to be YOU, its perfectly fine to have confidence in yourself and project this confidence amongst others as like I said in point number 1 its amazing how much inspiration you can gain from social media (I said inspiration not comparison remember).
  4. Don’t get too caught up. Even though social media is an amazing network, it is important not to get too caught up in it. It’s not really about how many likes or followers you gain because I would much rather relate to or inspire 1 person than 100 people who just like or follow you for superficial likes and follows back. This is something that I have only recently learnt since seriously starting my blogging and ‘Instagraming’ as I used to take it personally if someone unfollowed me or unliked a photo but life is too short to focus on those things. Life is also too short to spend 24/7 on social media. I must admit I am a culprit of this from time to time but I’ve realised its important to not live your life through a screen and actually look up, go out and do things. Moderation is key like with everything as we were born to live a natural life, not a virtual one.

 

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Be true Be you x

Dressing for your shape

Dressing for your shape can be very hard, especially nowadays because let’s face it does anyone have a clue what size they are? I sure don’t! Retailers don’t want to make it easy for us, one minute they seem quite generous with their sizing (raising suspicions as everything seems too good to be true) and making you feel a little better about yourself, but others simply want to crush that little confidence you have left as you barely fit one thigh into that same size skirt you just bought from the generous shop. Been there done that and it ain’t pretty trust me. So with my body shape and sizing I can tell you that I’ve been a range of sizes and shapes, from a size 16/18 to a size 8/10 and now settling at a size 12/14. I know it may sound silly but I can tell you that accepting my body shape at a size 12/14 has been rather difficult for me as I was previously a lot slimmer and since going to university my body has changed drastically. I’ve now got hips, a bum and mermaid thighs which I should be proud of because thats what makes me ME and who cares if you got a little bit of extra junk in the trunk to hold onto, at least I know if I fall on my bum it might cushion the blow a little! So I’m just going to share with you some little tips on how I’ve found what works with my body shape and if you’re a bum, thigh heavy girl like me then you’re in the right place…

First look is the dreaded skirt. Now I say dreaded because when you’ve got a big bum and thighs skirts are a nightmare, from riding up when you walk to being too goddamn short altogether. So to get round this I have found a style which I would say is the most flattering, comfortable and practical of all skirts, being the A-line skirt. As you can see in the left photo, a body con skirt just isn’t flattering at all and too short for public appearances but in the right photo the A-line skirt brings me in at the waist then flows out in (would you believe it) an A shape to balance and proportionate my figure. Plus I’m really loving high neck tops to elongate my body which probably doesn’t need elongating more than it already is, nearing 5″10, but I love it anyways. Oh and explanation to the random unicorn is basically there was a plug socket that I couldn’t crop out so I thought why not stick a unicorn in there instead; professional I am not but real I am and all that.

Horrible skirt (left) is from new look size 6 and horrible top (left) from new look size 10. Nice skirt (right) is from primary size 12 and nice top (right) is from H&M size Large.

Look two is dresses. Ahhh dresses what a palaver these are to find. So when I was slightly slimmer I could literally shove anything on in any shape and it would look pretty decent but now my big bum has formed this is just a no no. The best advice here is length length length! Midi dresses are perfect for a bigger bum and thighs as you can conceal those bad boys up whilst also accentuating you’re shape believe it or not. I’ll show you what I mean below…

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Horrible dress (left) is from new look size 12. Nice dress (right) is from Marks and Spencer size 12.

Even though the first picture doesn’t look too bad, you can tell from the second picture just how hideous this dress really is. It rides up when I walk, it’s too short and frankly it makes me look like a sack of striped potatoes! But if you take a look at the third picture my body is immediately elongated and appears slimmer which is all down to the amazing midi length. I can’t stress enough how much this type of dress flatters a bigger bummed figure, plus there are no issues with saggy tights which take you back to your three year old days again, as it’s long enough to get away with wearing no tights while still keeping warm in those winter months.

The third and final look are jeans. These were originally the hardest item of clothing to find for my shape as I just couldn’t find anything that would go past my mermaid thighs! So you can imagine how excited I was to find a style of jeans that actually fitted me, and of course me being me I’ve bought them in as my colours as I can (but not as many as I would like due to being a poor student). Without a doubt high waisted jeans are my best friend as they automatically draw your attention to the waist area which is significantly smaller than my bum/hips, plus they make you feel so much more secure by allowing you to hide that food baby when necessary until you get home to let it all loose. Also an extra tip is to do with coats. I find that the most flattering coats are the longer ones that cut me at the right place as a shorter coat that stops right on the bum would just maximise my assets more than I would want them to. I actually got this coat from the tall range (well I say got I mean my sister didn’t want it and of course I wasn’t going to turn down free clothes, especially from the all expensive Topshop) because me being of a slightly taller height the normal size coat cuts me off at the bum so if you’re the same as me I would highly recommend buying from the tall section, well from the little options available anyway. Oh and explanation for the random hand sticker is again the same plug socket that I couldn’t crop due to my thumbs up to show how happy these jeans make me.

Horrible jeans (left) are from H&M size 12 and horrible top (left) is from primark size 12. Nice jeans (right) are from Tesco F&F size 14, nice top (right) is from river island size 14 and coat is from Topshop size 12 in the tall range.

If you found this helpful in any way let me know in the comments and if you have any tips or advice on dressing for your shape I’m all ears. I’m pretty new to all this stuff so I’m no expert by any means but I’m eager to learn, grow and just have fun with it as I go along. I’m not going to pretend to be anything I’m not so what you see is all me, it may not be perfect but professional I am not, real I am.