4 things I’ve learnt from social media?

Social media is everywhere nowadays, its so hard not to get consumed by it. From the moment you wake up to the moment you go to sleep most of us will check some sort of social platform. We are all victims of this powerful tool that has truly hooked us. It seems scarier to think of a world without Facebook, Twitter, Youtube or Instagram now. But is this a good or a a bad thing?

As soon as you leave school the novelty of social media platforms just sort of dwindles off and now all you see are people sharing videos on Facebook and the occasional family/friends photo on Instagram. Before seriously getting into blogging and Instagram I wasn’t really that fussed by social media either, but oh how this has changed now. So today I’m going to share with you 5 things that I’ve learnt from social media.

  1. Be inspired, not compared. The number 1 rule when scrolling through Instagram or any social media is to not compare yourself to others or even worse beat yourself up (not literally) about the fact that you don’t look the same or lead the same lifestyle. Of course this is not to say that you can’t be inspired because probably the most valuable thing that I’ve gained from social media is inspiration from others, but there’s a fine line between comparison and inspiration.
  2. You can’t please them all. Someone once said to me if everyone likes you then you’re doing something wrong. At first I didn’t quite get what they meant by this but it makes perfect sense now. Not everyone will like what you’re doing, how you look and will frankly feel the need to tell you their opinions, but I say let them. Every time someone tries to knock you down or shine a negative light on what you’re doing just use this as perfect opportunity to prove them wrong. It shouldn’t matter what other people think, just as long as you’re happy with YOURSELF.
  3. Confidence is not a bad thing. I’ve found myself many times hesitant to post a photo on Instagram that could perhaps be deemed ‘showy’ but at the end of the day who cares! I’m not doing all this for other people, I’m doing it for me. In a way Instagram is sort of a public diary of photos that I’m able to look back on and share my journey with other people along the way. Throughout my journey I am most grateful for the confidence that I have gained from posting photos and writing my blogs as I have always struggled with confidence issues. So if there’s anything that you take away from this blog post is don’t be afraid to be YOU, its perfectly fine to have confidence in yourself and project this confidence amongst others as like I said in point number 1 its amazing how much inspiration you can gain from social media (I said inspiration not comparison remember).
  4. Don’t get too caught up. Even though social media is an amazing network, it is important not to get too caught up in it. It’s not really about how many likes or followers you gain because I would much rather relate to or inspire 1 person than 100 people who just like or follow you for superficial likes and follows back. This is something that I have only recently learnt since seriously starting my blogging and ‘Instagraming’ as I used to take it personally if someone unfollowed me or unliked a photo but life is too short to focus on those things. Life is also too short to spend 24/7 on social media. I must admit I am a culprit of this from time to time but I’ve realised its important to not live your life through a screen and actually look up, go out and do things. Moderation is key like with everything as we were born to live a natural life, not a virtual one.

 

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Be true Be you x

My thoughts on social media

Just a little warning this may be a bit of a wordy post. So the reason I didn’t post yesterday is because I was feeling very down and defeated with this whole blogging thing. I didn’t have any great ideas and when I tried to take photos it made me feel extremely bad about myself because they weren’t flattering at all. So in the end I got very frustrated and ended up quite emotional because I didn’t feel like I was getting anywhere and instead was just wasting loads of time. Also the whole social media and Instagram thing played a big part in my frustrations yesterday as I lose a lot of followers on a daily basis and it makes me worried and self-conscious as I feel like I’ve done something wrong or they don’t like my content and if so should I change it. But despite all this I realise today that I’m still really starting out with this whole blogging thing and have a lot to learn yet, plus things don’t just happen overnight, they take time.

There’s been many occasions when I’ve looked at other blogs and been tempted to just replicate what they do and write about the same kind of thing but at the end of the day that’s not me and that’s not what I want to talk about or represent. Don’t get me wrong I love writing about fashion and style but I don’t want to pretend to be something I’m not, so yes I may not take the most professional photos and yes I may not have the most luxurious stuff or do anything big or special to share with you, but that’s because I don’t and I can’t afford to at the moment as I’m a student. It’s so easy to get carried away with everything you see on social media and think that it’s the bee all and end all to have the latest stuff and be like them, but is it really? You see all these bloggers and youtubers galavanting off on their luxurious days out and showing the glamorous side of their life which is inspiring don’t get me wrong but it’s important to remember not to get too carried away with it all and beat yourself up about the fact that you don’t lead such a glamorous lifestyle. I am such a culprit of this especially when I look at other already established bloggers with a huge following and I ask myself why haven’t I achieved that yet? It may just not be my time or it may not ever happen but what I’ve got to remember is that I’m not doing all this blogging and social media stuff for loads of likes or attention, I’m doing it for me and it doesn’t matter if 10 or 100 people read my blog just as long as I stay true to myself and ultimately help others too. It’s so easy to compare yourself to others on social media but there’s a fine line between admiring someone else and then beating yourself up about not being like them. I must point out that I’m no expert and my intentions of this blog are not to offer professional advice as I’m definitely no professional but I just wanted to share with you my recent thoughts and feelings on the whole blogging social media thing.

Social media is such a powerful tool nowadays that can be both a really positive and negative thing. It’s very hard but you’ve just got to block out the negativity and not care what others think, post what you want to post and be who you want to be. You can end up putting so much pressure on yourself to be and present yourself in a certain way similar to others that may not actually represent who you are as a person and what’s the point in that? Not everyone is going to necessarily like your content, posts or blog but that’s life, you can’t make everyone happy so why bother trying to, you should only be trying to make yourself happy. As long as you like what you’re doing then heck just go for it. So what if my Instagram is a bit random and there’s no consistent white background theme. That’s because I’m a bit random and I like doing a variety of things as my family will know from what we call my hobby-hopping days when I used to start and then go onto the next hobby like no tomorrow; from gymnastics to netball to fashion designing and the list goes on… That’s just me, and I don’t intend to change just to try and fit in with other bloggers and social media. My trying to fit in school days are over and it’s time to just be me and embrace that. I apologise again for the wordiness of this post but I just wanted to and needed to express my thoughts and opinions on the matter as it has been something that as played on my mind for a while now and I’m sure a lot of people have felt the same at some point. This is why I stick by my motto Be True Be You as it’s very easy in the world we live in today to follow the crowd and ultimately lose yourself, but why follow others when you can be different, unique and be YOU.

The truth about Instagram photos

So you’re trawling through your Instagram feed looking at all these photos of beautiful women who evidently go to the gym, eat healthily and have natural glowing skin to match their perfectly shaped body. If you’re an Instagram addict like me then you’ll know the kind of girls I’m talking about. We all, once in our lives, have aspired to be like them but I’m here to tell you today that not all of what you see is true. In today’s society its so easy to manipulate photos with the magical help of airbrushing and effects. So that perfectly smooth baby bum skin may just be the works of a expert photoshopper with a hint of wizardry in the form of an app. Personally I was shocked to see what you could actually do on these apps from changing the shape of your face to your whole friggin body. That just ain’t right and more importantly that just ain’t you. Not sticking to my moto, Be true Be you, I’ll tell you that right now. Also what I find with all these Instagramers is that they really know how to pose to accentuate their assets if ya know what I’m saying. So I decided to have a go at all this professional Instagram photo stuff and it was quite interesting I must say but I’ll let you be the judge…

First up is the dreaded straight on photo which isn’t particularly my most flattering angle but by just making minor body movements, i.e. pushing my hips to the side and my bum out slightly, I wouldn’t say its 100 times better but I’d probably say its 80% better as it actually looks like I have a figure rather than just thick thighs (which I love and am very proud of don’t get me wrong, they just don’t need to be the centre of attention all the time). Also notice that by taking the photo from further away my body looks more in proportion and elongated which is always a good thing.

Now lets get to the be-hind area, my favourite but also most dreaded area when taking photos. One thing you have to remember when you have a big bum is that you gotta know its shape and learn how to work it. Here is a classic example in figure hugging jeans that are a godsend as well as nightmare. As you can see from the photos, the relaxed position on the left does nothing for my figure and actually makes my bum look rather strange, plus look at all those lines on my jeans! Compared to the right one where I’ve again stuck my booty out and placed my hand on my thigh to accentuate my curves. Also by sticking that booty out you can actually see my waist HALLELUJAH! I’ve gone from pancake to peachy in a matter of one position change.

Next I tried taking photos in a bodycon dress. Now this is something that all us curvy girls absolutely love but its just so hard to find one that doesn’t ride up as soon as you start walking. They also can be a bit tricky when it comes to taking photos as there’s no hiding in them I’ll tell you that. I must admit this one isn’t too bad but by slightly adjusting my hip position to the side and crossing my legs I feel it elongates my figure and gives me more of a shape.

The be-hind shot is a little different. As you can see from the left photo my butt looks a little spread out and isn’t able to shine like it is in the right photo. All you gotta do is tilt those hips to the side and push that booty out and BOOM bigger butt smaller waist. Also you can see that the right photo is a much closer shot than the left and yes that’s deliberate cuz you wanna give that booty the centre stage it deserves, especially in a bodycon dress.

Then the real business began when I started playing around with airbrushing. I can honestly say that I will now cautiously look at Instagram photos knowing what people have access to and what they can do with those things. So this is my attempt at airbushing…

I know its not a mega drastic change but you can see that my skin is baby bum soft approved, I now have mascara, my eyes are brighter and my lips are soft pink. I much prefer the left one with no filters, nothing if you ask me.

And then it gets worse when you can change the shape of your body. Now this is something that I am totally against. It may only be a minor difference as my legs look slimmer and my waist looks smaller but that’s just not me. Why pretend to be someone that you’re not just for some likes on Instagram? People should like you for who you are and not what you pretend to be as you can’t keep pretending your whole entire life. You’ve just got to embrace you for you and remember always Be True Be You.